Help for children and young people
What is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse (also called domestic violence) happens when one person hurts or bullies another person who was or is their partner or who is in the same family. It can happen between people who are going out together, living together, have children together or are married to each other. It can happen when people live together or live separately.
Domestic abuse can also happen after a relationship has finished. Usually (but not always) it is the man who is the abuser and the woman who gets hurt. Although domestic abuse happens, mostly between adults, young people can be affected by the abuse they see and hear, and they can be hurt as part of the domestic abuse between adults. Young people may also experience abuse from their own boy/girlfriend.
If this is happening in your family, remember you are not alone. Domestic abuse happens in many families and there are people that can help you and your family.
Everyone has the right to be safe and to feel safe.
What can I do?
Remember, domestic abuse isn’t your fault. You are not to blame. Here’s what you can do to help your situation.
If abuse is happening at home you probably want it to stop but you might not be sure what you can do. The first thing to do is to tell someone what is going on. You might be able to talk to the person who is being hurt. If not you could try talking to someone you can trust like a teacher, a neighbour, a friend or a friends parent etc. You can also call one of the helplines below:
Below is a list of helpline numbers where you can talk to someone about abuse that might be happening in your home. In an emergency, please ring the police on 999 for immediate help.
Childline – 0800 1111
Free, 24-hour telephone helpline for children and young people anywhere in the UK. Trained counsellors offer comfort, support, advice and protection. Calls to Childline are confidential, and are free even from mobiles. Calls don’t show up on phone bills. If you’re deaf, hard of hearing or have difficulties with speech, you can use their textphone service on 0800 400 222 (not available at night).
NSPCC Helpline – 0808 800 5000
If you’re worried about a child’s safety or if you need help or advice, ring the NSPCC helpline
24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline – 0808 2000 247
This helpline service provides support, information and a listening ear to women and children experiencing domestic abuse. It also helps women and children find a place of safety in a women’s refuge.
www.thehideout.org.uk Provides really useful information and help for children and young people. Look at their website to find out what domestic abuse is, how it can make you feel and where you can go for help.
www.childline.org.uk Provides really useful information and help for children and young people about a range of things including relationship abuse, puberty, self-harm, sex and sexual relationships, parents and alcohol, friends etc.
www.breakthecycle.org Is an American site. Aims to empower and educate young people to live a life free from dating abuse and domestic abuse.
Going into a Refuge
A refuge is a safe place where women, children and young people can come to stay to be safe and get away from domestic abuse at home.
Our refuge is bright and friendly with outdoor and indoor play areas. We have a children and young people’s worker who will help you settle in. You can bring some of your things into refuge.
The addresses of refuges are kept secret so that women and children living there can be safe.